This mom came to us because her son was disappearing before her eyes.

She’d been in recovery herself for over 20 years, came from many generations of alcoholism, had been in fellowships since she was a child, and had a masters degree in special education. She knew how to achieve recovery. She knew the 12 Steps. She knew mental illness. She knew what to do.

But none of it seemed to make any difference for her son.

This is so common with families we work with. We’ve had parents and spouses in our programs who are doctors, therapists, nurses, life coaches, and in recovery themselves who have all this knowledge about the brain, mental illness, and even addiction, yet when it came to their loved ones, they felt helpless.

The truth is that no matter how much of an expert we are at something, when it comes to our loved ones, we are emotionally compromised.

There’s a reason doctors don’t typically treat their own family members or judges recuse themselves when a case involves a loved one.

Even for interventionists, who are experts in addiction—we’re not experts when it’s our loved one with the addiction. We need professional guidance too.

This mom sought that guidance from Tipping Point Recovery at the recommendation of her friend, though she was skeptical at first.

“I went to one talk and said if [Kate] moves my heart, I’ll continue to the next step. And that’s really what happened.”

She participated in our introductory Stop the Chaos program, went on to our 12-week program, and eventually decided to move forward with an intervention service.

“[This program] was something that I wished my family had access to when I got sober. It felt like a bridge connecting the family.”

It became a bridge to herself too. One that allowed her to find herself again.

“It freed me up, not having to know all the answers. I started singing again. Co-workers who I’ve worked alongside for eight years saw my transformation. They’d say things like, ‘Oh, you’ve changed. You’re easy to be with now.’”

Her son is thriving too. “He’s better than I ever could have dreamed.” From a zombie who wouldn’t leave the house to a social young man who plays his music for others.

His path to recovery was different from his mom’s path. Which is another important thing to remember:

Every recovery journey is different.

What worked for me when I got sober might not work for someone else. The path you envision for your loved one’s recovery might not be the one they take.

That’s why our programs here at Tipping Point Recovery focus on two paths: one for you (the family) and one for your loved one.

Your path is yours—to find yourself again, to reclaim your voice, and to get healthy. From that place, you can then offer support to your loved one as they find their own path—one that is likely different from yours, and that’s okay.

We don’t have to know what the path will look like before we begin. You can take it in baby steps, one small thing at a time.

A step available to you right now is to join us in the current round of our Stop the Chaos Study Group. Over this 4-part training, I show you exactly what’s been standing between your loved one and their recovery and give you the steps to help get your entire family on a healthier path now.

And through the study group, you’ll get weekly LIVE support while you watch the trainings, offering you the immediate relief of finally being seen, of getting your voice back, and of being supported and understood by others who started exactly where you are and remain committed to walking this daily journey by your side.

The group sessions will run on Wednesdays through July 31st at 12-1pm EST. Make sure to join us, as this is the last live study group we have planned in this format. Take advantage of it while you can.

“I know from my experience, that if you do the same behaviors, it’s gonna give you the same results,” this mom shared. “You’re either going to be going in one direction—addiction, jails, death—or [you can] try something different.”

If you’re ready to try something different, register HERE for Stop the Chaos, and be sure to check the box for the live study group to join us on Wednesday. 

Then comment below, do you find yourself feeling like you should know how to fix your loved one? Do you feel the pressure of needing to have all the answers?

If so, you’re not alone, and you’re in the right place.