Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
We did it.
We reached 100 subscribers on our YouTube Channel.
It hit me that it only took 1 small thing to reach 100 subscribers in just a couple of hours.
I asked for help.
It sounds so simple, but literally, all I did was ask, “Please help.” Within a couple of hours, we had reached 100 subscribers.
That’s how it works. That’s how it all works.
Addiction thrives in the dark. Addiction wants to stay a secret.
So when you just say, “Please help.” → That’s a prayer. That’s an outreach that changes the game entirely.
I posted on Facebook and I asked, “Can you please help me?” And they did.
It feels good to be helped. And it feels good to help, too!
It made me chuckle a little, too, as some got a little competitive, especially when we were at 98…99. Then one person said, “I just went into my mother’s account and subscribed” because she wanted to help us get to 100.”
She’s a badass recovery warrior.
It’s not always easy to ask for help so here are a few quick, back-to-basic tips that can make a massive impact on getting you out of chaos.
If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, here are the first two things I like to recommend you do.
Get yourself a copy of the book “Alcoholics Anonymous.” Also known as the “Big Book,” this book is a staple in A.A., created with the purpose of showing those struggling with alcoholism how the first hundred people of A.A. found lasting recovery.
While there are other paths to recovery, this primary one holds information that is helpful for those who love someone to know and understand.
I want this book to be in all homes where alcoholism lives.
Then if your loved one sees it and says, “Why do you have that book?” You can reply matter-of-factly, “Oh, I’m learning about the solution to alcoholism.” And let it go.
What’s most common when someone around us is struggling is the feeling that they should read this book, they should get to meetings, etc.
Watch what happens when you shift from “You should do this” to “Here is what I am doing.”
We learn SO much when we first start to recover, and I remember thinking Why doesn’t everyone know this?
I want you to know this!
This one is simple and will help you get yourself on a recovery path. It will help you start to understand this disease.
You can get it on Amazon or you can go to an open AA meeting and ask for one.
Go to Google and search for page 417 of the Big Book and print it out or save it on your phone. This is the Acceptance Prayer.
Read this every day for 14 days. It will help you, I promise.
Your loved one, if they’ve been to any meetings at all, they’re going to know this prayer. I want you to learn the prayer because you need it as much as they need it.
I want you to BE the recovery so that they can be.
Let’s stop pointing fingers and start to recover ourselves.
Do these two simple things, and if you really want to feel better: go to an AA or NA meeting.
Did you know anyone can attend an open AA or NA meeting? Open AA and open NA meetings are open to anyone and everyone. You can go on zoom, you can even shut your camera off, and there are telephone meetings as well as in-person ones. Go any way you can.
This is how to learn about addiction. Learning about addiction will empower you to offer real help.
Please share this, like it, comment, and/or tell me how it all feels for you.
If you do these three things (buy and read the Big Book of AA, read the Acceptance Prayer every day, and attend a few open meetings) you are going to see results.
Please email and let me know when you do!
I get emails all the time with “You’re not going to believe what just happened” in the subject line because when people do these things, they get results.
What we’re doing here is we are unplugging from what isn’t happening and we are feeding what we want to have happen. We inspire change.
Baby steps, tiny baby steps.
→ When we’re watching someone struggle, we are in fear, doubt and confusion.
→ When we’re struggling with addiction, we are in fear, doubt and confusion.
→ Fear and doubt and confusion + fear and doubt and confusion does not equal recovery.
So, just for today, take some action: go to a meeting! Again, share this email and spread this message.
Let’s just recover a little bit more today so our loved ones can.
So, thank you for helping us get to 100. Let’s keep going because that’s the point. Pay it forward.