When you love someone with an addiction, all you think about is helping them get sober.
Wishing and hoping and pleading usually doesn’t work. And this cycle never ends.
What if you could confront the addiction in a way that would increase your loved one’s chances of wanting the help you know they so desperately need?
The fact is on some level you know what you’ve been doing isn’t working. Yet you keep on trying to help, to convince them.
You just don’t know what else you should do.
Addiction is powerful.
It controls everything, destroys everything, consumes everything.
And it is vicious in defending itself.
The reality is that the majority of people caught in addiction are too deep in it to have access to the tools they need to recover all on their own. And the longer their addiction progresses, the further those tools get from their reach.
Our Interventions Create a Tipping Point™
Our Family System Interventions, professionally guided and thoughtfully planned (before, during and after treatment), are powerful, long-term solutions that to our clients have felt like miracles at work.
Traditional interventions help to get someone into treatment.
But that is not the only thing you want.
What you want is long-term recovery.
Getting someone into treatment isn’t that hard. Helping someone stay in treatment long enough to be able to learn to live a substance-free and sober life and creating long-term success is much harder.
Just look at the rates of return visits to rehabilitation centers across the country.
The greatest point of relapse happens at or just after the transition from treatment to home. Why?
In order for someone to have the best chance for success, addicts need a complete, holistic approach to recovery, particularly during the critical first 12 months when most are 90% likely to relapse.
And that approach must include you!
At Tipping Point Recovery, We Do Interventions Differently.
In fact, you could say we do an intervention on the family first, long before we speak with the addict. The process is not easy. We promise it will test you. Stretch you.
It will also empower you. Ground you. And ultimately enlighten you to the very real control you do have in this unmanageable situation.
The hard truth is that addiction is a family problem.
Like it or not — know it or not — the family as a whole is impacted, and therefore your role in this is critical.
To recover successfully and long term, it takes more time than most realize and longer than anyone is willing to agree to.
They can’t do it alone.
And neither can you.
A Tipping Point Recovery Intervention is a process, not an event.
This means the intervention doesn’t end when your loved one enters treatment. By giving you—the family—education, support, and ongoing tools & resources to orient your entire family toward recovery, we help you create an environment where recovery can thrive long after your loved one completes treatment.
Think about it this way: if you remove someone from their environment, have them change everything about how they’d been living, then plop them right back in the exact same environment they were in before, what are the chances any of the changes they made are going to stick?
Slim to none.
But if the environment they are returning to also changes to better align with the new skills and practices they learned in treatment? That’s when lasting change is possible.
Tipping Point Recovery Family System Interventions surround the addiction from all sides so it has no place to go but out.
This is real talk with practical solutions to address your anger, your compliance, your avoidance, your understanding, your fear, your silence, your yelling.
This real talk also addresses your loved one’s behavior, mental health challenges, life challenges, fear, unwillingness, avoidance, and more.
During your Tipping Point Recovery Intervention, we spend time preparing you, educating you, strengthening you and supporting you, all while we guide you.
Hi, my name is Kate Duffy.
I am both a recovering alcoholic and a family member of people who’ve struggled.
In 2013 I started the lifelong process of recovering from my addiction. Since then, I’ve made it my mission to recover not just my own life, but to teach families how to proactively insert themselves into their loved one’s recovery process and learn to give them the real support they need to finally break free.
My own alcoholism made me do unthinkable things. Like lying to my three kids. Hiding bottles. Driving drunk repeatedly. My sister admitted after I got sober that she’d been afraid for me and afraid of me. None of my family had known what to do. I wish someone had been there to tell them, “Your mom/sister/daughter has become sick, she’s self-medicating her mental-health pain with alcohol, it’s not your fault, and you are not crazy. We can help you and her.”
Once I got sober, I desperately wanted to help others who struggled from addiction. I took a job working on call with a local police department doing emergency room interventions, greeting individuals who had just experienced a non-fatal overdose. Over the course of two years, I did close to 200 interventions in the ER, engaging with the patients as a peer to help get them on a path to recovery. The one question almost every patient I spoke with asked me was, “Will you talk to my family?”
I started a family support group to help the families of these patients understand their loved ones and what was really going on with addiction. One meeting nine months into the group, I looked around the room and realized that the loved one of every single family present was in recovery. That’s when I knew what we were doing was a game changer—that the family system was the key that was missing from the current recovery system.
I created Tipping Point Recovery to bring this solution to as many families as possible, and the results have been unprecedented.
What Our Clients Say
“Until we found Tipping Point Recovery, we were convinced we held the answer to our loved one’s recovery from alcoholism,
but all our efforts led to an unhealthy codependency that unraveled our family without curing the addiction. Tipping Point has taught us the truth about addiction; it is a family disease requiring us to stop taking responsibility for our loved one and start recovering ourselves. We are building a tool kit, learning self-care, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to offer the best support. We are finally on a healthy journey and are grateful to Tipping Point.”
“I don’t know what else to say other than Tipping Point Recovery saved my husband’s life. It saved my life.
I was overwhelmed. Our life was chaotic. I didn’t know what else to do. And being in medicine myself, I thought I knew everything, but I needed so much help and support and Tipping Point provided that for me; it gave me peace. And eventually it helped my husband get sober. Our lives wouldn’t be what they are today without Tipping Point Recovery.”
“The day I met Kate Duffy was the best day of my life. . . and the worst!
I had to learn how to react to my loved one after 35 years of addiction. And, I thought it was all about changing him! But I learned quickly that nothing changes until something changes and that change was up to me. It was a hard lesson for me to learn how to love him but not enable him. To me those were the same thing. It’s a fine line and I did learn. For all those years I searched for someone to help and was let down every time until I found Kate. My loved one’s life is changed now and so is mine and I am so grateful for Tipping Point for showing me the difference that knowledge can make.”
Our Interventions Start with You
The first 1-2 weeks of the intervention process are spent preparing for the day we officially confront your loved one about their addiction.
In addition to the private meetings with your interventionist, you also get access to our group membership where you can listen to recorded lessons and join live group calls to help learn how to do what it is we’re asking you to do and to use the community to strengthen and support you in this new way of relating and communicating.
Through Tipping Point™ Recovery’s Family Intervention process, you’ll receive:
- Customized family intervention plan that ultimately leads to a Family Meeting (a vastly transformed version of the traditional “Intervention”) that suits your family’s specific needs
- Improved family communications, even with an addict who is not yet willing
- Regular educational sessions (mostly online, some in person) with hands-on exercises for you to complete privately
- Phone and email support, so there’s always someone there when you need them
- Follow-up conversations with support professionals
- Daily and weekly habits, routines and milestones to keep you moving toward the next step
- Emotional support from a confidential community
- Encouragement when you’re ready to give up
- Empathy without judgement
- A professional team that meets you where you are
- Real talk from people who have lived this life and come through to the other side
We continue to work with you to…
- Educate the family system about the intervention process, addiction and recovery, and how addiction should be addressed within the family.
- Create new and healthier forms of communication through letter-writing exercises, family interaction, and open discussion.
- Identify the many different roles being played within the family system, and discuss the changes that may be necessary in order to help your loved one.
- Discuss what has been happening, what has been done, why it hasn’t been helping, and how to implement clear, strong, and healthy boundary-building techniques.
- Research, coordinate, and identify appropriate treatment options and bed availability based on your loved one’s specific or unique needs.
- Plan and coordinate logistics for getting your loved one to the Intervention meeting, and getting them in to the best treatment facility for their needs safely.
- Monitor their treatment stay, working closely with the facility.
- Facilite family discussions at points of disengagement, conflict or other matters as they arise.
- Manage your loved one’s case through to recovery stablity.
Each Tipping Point Recovery Family System Intervention is extensive, custom designed, and therefore unique to the family it serves.
As a result, the cost of services varies based on your location, scope of services, family size, and your loved one’s individual circumstances. A typical investment starts at $10,000.
With this investment, you are ensuring that every dollar you spend from here on out is going toward the solution. No more guessing. No more going it alone. You get expert guidance and support so not another dollar is wasted.
We are aware finances can be restrictive, and we regularly work with families to find a solution that works within their budget. We encourage you to book a call with our team to discuss your family’s situation and find a solution that will work best.
You don’t have to wait for the wheels to fall off before you get started.
During this intervention process, your family will…
- Receive custom critical guidance, support and education
- Uncover and dismantle the active role you’ve played in your loved one’s addiction
- Become stronger than the addiction
- Follow a series of intentional, customized steps to support your unique circumstances and needs
- Create a long-term plan for change in your family system
- Give your loved one the best chance for success in accessing treatment and recovery
- Move forward without your loved one’s willingness, participation or consent
- You will experience 100% satisfaction (based on client feedback)
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if it’s time for an intervention?
If you’re asking this question, it’s time.
The truth is making this decision is never going to feel good. It will always be hard. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to happen. If you find yourself hesitating to do an intervention because you are afraid — of how your loved one will react, of what it will mean for your family, or of any part of the process — I strongly encourage you to reach out to me so we can discuss those fears together. Because it is scary, but it’s important not to let that fear prevent your loved one from getting what they need.
My loved one has already been to treatment and it didn’t work. How will an intervention make any difference?
Individuals frequently need more than one, and sometimes several, treatment stays in order to find long-term success. But the chances of treatment compliance and long-term stay significantly increase when the family is involved in a recovery experience while your loved one is in a treatment facility, all being guided by a professional.
A key component of a Tipping Point Recovery Intervention is it doesn’t end when your loved one enters treatment. Which means you, the family, have access to the education, support, and ongoing tools and resources to help you create an environment where recovery can thrive longer after your loved one completes treatment.
What if my loved one still says no to treatment?
As we mentioned earlier, a Tipping Point Recovery Family System Intervention is a process, not an event. What this means in this instance is that if your loved one says no to treatment on the day of the Intervention, the intervention itself doesn’t end. A “no” will inform our next action and our next decision. We will continue to guide you to get your loved one into treatment, including boundary support and family meetings, and help you to not support their addiction in any way.
And remember, your loved one saying no does not mean the intervention has “failed.” We have done interventions where the addict walked in the front door, saw what was happening, and walked straight out the back door. You know where they are now? In recovery and thriving, and their family as a whole is healthier and stronger. It’s easy to hear that “no” and think that’s it, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. By doing an intervention, you are doing everything in your power to help your loved one find recovery, even if it doesn’t happen the way you hoped it would.