When you love someone with an addiction, all you think about is helping them get sober.
Wishing and hoping and pleading usually doesn’t work.
And this cycle never ends.
I should know. My name is Kate Duffy, and I am both an alcoholic and a family member of people who’ve struggled. In 2013 I started the lifelong process of recovering from my addiction. Since then, I’ve made it my mission to recover not just my own life, but to teach families how to proactively insert themselves into their loved one’s recovery process and give them the real support they need to finally break free.
Addiction is powerful.
It controls everything, destroys everything, consumes everything.
The fact is, on some level you know that you are no match for your loved one’s addiction.
Yet you keep on trying to help, to convince them.
You just don’t know what you should do.
Do you think they can get clean and sober on their own?
The reality is that many people caught in addiction are often too deep in it to have what they need to recover themselves. What they really need is to be surrounded by recovering people so they can see people taking charge of their recovery and come to wanting this for themselves.
If only…they could see this.
And they often need this long before they’re ready to reach for help on their own.
Our Interventions Create a Tipping Point™
What if you could confront the addiction in a way that your loved one could begin to want the help you so desperately know they need?
Our Interventions, professionally guided and thoughtfully planned (before, during and after), are powerful, long lasting, and honestly most often feel like miracles are happening.
Most traditional Interventions help to get someone into treatment. But that is not the only thing you want. What you want is long-term success. Long-term recovery.
Getting someone into treatment isn’t that hard. Getting someone to stay in treatment long enough to be able to learn to live a substance-free and sober life and creating long-term successful recovery is much harder.
Just look at the rates of return visits to rehabilitation centers across the country.
The greatest point of relapse happens just at or just after the transition from treatment to home.
Why?
In order for someone to have the best chance for success, addicts need a complete, holistic approach to their recovery, particularly during the critical first 12 months when most are 90% likely to relapse.
And that must include you!
At Tipping Point™ Recovery, we do Interventions differently. In fact, you could say we do an Intervention on the family first, long before we speak with the addict.
This inverted model delivers an over 87% success rate at one year. That means that over 87% of Tipping Point™ Recovery families are able to help their loved one stop using and stay clean for an entire year (or more).
87% get and stay clean.
How Tipping Point™ Recovery is Different
None of this is easy. In fact, at Tipping Point™ Recovery we promise this process will be hard. It will test you. Stretch you. It will also empower you. Ground you. And ultimately enlighten you to the very real control you do have in this unmanageable situation.
Our Interventions Start with You
During your Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Intervention, we spend time preparing you, educating you, strengthening you and supporting you, all while we guide you.
The first 1-2 weeks are preparing for the day you officially confront your loved one about their addiction.
Between your family meetings, we encourage you to listen to recorded lessons and join live group calls to help learn how to do what it is we’re asking you to do and to use the community to strengthen and support you in this new way of relating and communicating.
During this process, your family will:
- Receive custom critical guidance, support and education
- Uncover and dismantle the active role you’ve played in your loved one’s addiction
- Become stronger than the addiction
- Follow a series of intentional, customized steps to support your unique circumstances and needs
- Create a long-term plan for change in your family system
- Give your loved one the best chance for success in accessing treatment and recovery
- Move forward without your loved one’s willingness, participation or consent
- You will experience 100% satisfaction (based on our family feedback)
Why Tipping Point™ Interventions Work
The hard truth is that addiction is family problem. Like it or not — know it or not — the family is a critical factor in whether an addict remains in or recovers from addiction.
As well, to recover successfully and long term from addiction, it takes longer than most realize and longer than most are willing to agree to. Initially.
They can’t do it alone.
And neither can you.
Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Interventions surround the addiction from all sides so it has no place to go but out. This is real talk with practical solutions to address your anger, your compliance, your avoidance, your understanding, your fear, your silence, your yelling.
This real talk also addresses your loved one’s behavior, mental health challenges, life challenges, fear, unwillingness, avoidance, etc.
Through Tipping Point™ Recovery’s Family Intervention process, you’ll receive:
- Customized family Intervention plan that ultimately leads to a Family Meeting (a vastly transformed version of the traditional “Intervention”) that suits your family’s specific needs
- Improved family communications, both with the addict and even when they are not yet willing
- Regular educational sessions (mostly online, some in person) with hands-on exercises for you to complete privately
- Phone and email support, so there’s always someone there when you need them
- Follow-up conversations with support professionals
- Daily and weekly habits, routines and milestones to keep you moving toward the next step
- Emotional support from a confidential community
- Encouragement when you’re ready to give up
- Empathy without judgement
- A professional team that meets you where you are
- Real talk from people who have lived this life and come through to the other side
Are you ready to learn more?
Click the button below to book a free call with Kate to discuss our services.
What To Expect
A Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Intervention is a process, not an event. So before we can begin, we schedule a free comprehensive Intake Family Zoom Call where we discuss your family’s unique situation in detail to determined if and how we feel we could help you.
Once we determine that your family will be a good fit, a Tipping Point™ Recovery Services Specialist will walk you through the process of working with us. We will serve as primary point of contact for your family, along with other specialists and professionals on our team intermittently as needed.
We continue to work with you to:
- Educate the family system about the Intervention process, addiction and recovery, and how addiction should be addressed within the family.
- Create new and healthier forms of communication through letter-writing exercises, family interaction, and open discussion.
- Identify the many different roles being played within the family system, and discuss the changes that may be necessary in order to help your loved one.
- Discuss what has been happening, what has been done, why it hasn’t been helping, and how to implement clear, strong, and healthy boundary-building techniques.
- Research, coordinate, and identify appropriate treatment options and bed availability based on your loved one’s specific or unique needs.
- Plan and coordinate logistics for getting your loved one to the Intervention meeting, and getting them in to the best treatment facility for their needs safely.
- Monitor their treatment stay, working closely with the facility.
- Facilite family discussions at points of disengagement, conflict or other matters as they arise.
- Manage your loved one’s case through to recovery stablity.
Each Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Intervention is extensive, custom designed, and therefore unique to the family it serves. As a result, the cost of services varies based on your location, scope of services, family size and individual circumstances of the loved one dealing with addiction.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if it’s time for an intervention?
If you’re asking this question, it’s time.
The truth is making this decision is never going to feel good. It will always be hard. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to happen. If you find yourself hesitating to do an intervention because you are afraid — of how your loved one will react, of what it will mean for your family, or of any part of the process — I strongly encourage you to reach out to me so we can discuss those fears together. Because it is scary, but it’s important not to let that fear prevent your loved one from getting what they need.
My loved one has already been to treatment and it didn’t work. How will an intervention make any difference?
A Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Intervention is a process, not an event. This means the Intervention doesn’t end when your loved one enters treatment. By giving you, the family, education, support and ongoing tools & resources to orient your entire family toward recovery, we help you create an environment where recovery can thrive long after your loved one completes treatment.
Think about it this way: if you remove someone from their environment, have them change everything about how they’d been living, then plop them right back in the exact same environment they were in before, what are the chances any of the changes they made are going to stick? Slim to none. But if the environment they are returning to also changes to better align with the new skills and practices they learned in treatment? That’s when lasting change is possible.
Individuals frequently need multiple, and sometimes many, treatment stays to find long-term success. The chances of treatment compliance and long-term stay significantly increase when the family is involved in a recovery experience while your loved one is in a treatment facility, all being guided by a professional.
What if my loved one still says no to treatment?
(Broken record, we know…) A Tipping Point™ Recovery Family Intervention is a process, not an event. What this means in this instance is that if your loved one says no to treatment on the day of the Intervention, the Intervention itself doesn’t end. A “no” will inform our next action and our next decision. We will continue to guide you to get your loved one into treatment, including boundary support and family meetings, and help you to not support their addiction in any way.
And remember, your loved one saying no does not mean the Intervention has “failed.” We have done Interventions where the addict walked in the front door, saw what was happening, and walked straight out the back door. You know where they are now? In recovery and thriving, and their family as a whole is healthier and stronger. It’s easy to hear that “no” and think that’s it, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. By doing an Intervention, you are doing everything in your power to help your loved one find recovery, even if it doesn’t happen the way you hoped it would.