Here’s the story of the very first boundary I ever set many years ago. Prior to this experience, I hadn’t heard the word boundary and let’s just say my actions were often based on what I thought others wanted. Unconsciously. I was married and my...
When we work with families, we do something that makes some people uncomfortable. We ask them to look at themselves. Not their loved one. Themselves. But the truth is, once people start self reflecting, they are so happy they did. It changes everything. I ask...
I was coaching a mom a few months ago, and she was sharing about her son. He’d been using for three years. Every conversation ended in a screaming match. She couldn’t say anything right. Everything she said seemed to make him more defensive, more angry,...
In our Stop the Chaos training, we do something that makes people uncomfortable. We ask them to rate themselves. Not their loved one. Themselves. On a scale of 1 to 10, where are you in YOUR recovery from the family disease of addiction? Most families have never even...
“What’s the hardest part about loving someone with substance use disorder right now?” 💬 “Turning the recovery focus on myself rather than doing their work for them.”💬 “Even when they’re doing well, your heart and mind just race in the middle of the night thinking of...
I talk about addiction all the time, and I do it from the experience of addiction because I’ve learned that when families, loved ones, and friends of someone struggling (who are not addicts themselves) learn from those in recovery, they can learn to respond in a whole...
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