Let’s Change the Numbers

We just completed our very first beta Stop the Chaos Study Group, and I’ve been deep into studying the results to see what we can do to make the next one even better (more details on the next one in a minute!). The goal of the study group was to provide live support...

Knowing Is Not Enough

Last week was the 11th anniversary of the death of a very special young man who lost his life at the young age of 18. His name was Brian Hoeflinger. He was a star student, a great friend, and an all around kind-hearted person who was driving his car when he died. He...

What Creates a Willingness to Get Sober?

“She ‘just’ needs to….” UGH. It’s all I hear these days. My wife/husband/daughter/son/etc. “just” needs to do x, y, z.  Trust me, I get the frustration of someone who isn’t willing to do what you know they should do, but here is the hard truth: They have a brain...

When I first called Kate

“When I first called Kate, I referred to my brother as a lying manipulative jerk!  I now can comfortably say that my love for him is unconditional yet my support of him is conditional. I will not support his addiction in any way. I feel so free and he is in...

It’s so hard to shake

“It’s so hard to shake these enabling habits that had become my way of being without a community and Kate to guide me. I love this community and honestly can’t imagine my life without everyone here.” – A...

When I mind my own business

“When I mind my own business and stay in my lane, I recover.  When I mind someone else’s business and go into their lane, I am blocking their potential to learn and grow. Kate works in such a unique way and I love all that I am learning.” – A...