Most families come to me asking some version of the same question. How do I get them to stop? It is the wrong question. Not because it does not matter, but because it is not yours to answer. You cannot answer it. And spending your energy there is exactly what keeps...
This week, one of our clients stood up in front of a room and told her story from the beginning. Three years ago, she was raging. She would find beer her husband hid and pour it over his head. She followed him, checked drawers, set the tone for the entire house, and...
Somewhere along the way, most families pick up the same belief. “The first step is getting them to admit they’re an addict.” So they wait for that admission. They push for it. They think if they can just get their loved one to say the word out loud,...
I was one year sober and working as a case manager in a detox when I met a girl I’ll call Amanda. First, a quick distinction that most families don’t know: detox is not treatment. Detox is medical stabilization, keeping someone safe through withdrawal,...
There’s a question I hear more than almost any other, and it’s usually said quietly, almost like the person is afraid to say it out loud. But we don’t talk about surface stuff here at Tipping Point so the truth always surfaces. “What if I set a...
I want to tell you about a moment early in my recovery that most people would assume was a good one. I was somewhere around 10 days sober. I went to a meeting and I got a chip. When I walked up to get the chip, I could feel that people were going to clap. People...
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